Thursday, March 31, 2011

Random photos

This is a random post because I finally downloaded these photos from my phone and thought they were too cute not to share.

Anna helping Daddy unload the dirt from the truck. She was more help than her Mama was!













Ian pushing Anna on the "big kid" swing. She gave up the baby swing in February and tells us, "Up high" whenever she gets on it.


















Anna pushing her baby around the yard in the stroller. That little stroller has logged some serious mileage!

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Ian's wife and baby

Ian is a bright and inquisitive boy so when he asks questions I attempt to answer him as honestly as I can, keeping in mind his age and what Mark and I feel is appropriate for him. His questions often revolve around God, relationships like friendships/marriage, typical boy things like space, dinosaurs and Legos, and how things work.

But this school year it's come to our attention that our son, at the ripe old age of 4-1/2, is very aware of the dynamics of girls and boys and is already looking to his future. :) He has a few girlfriends at school. He told us that he wants to marry a girl in his class named Veronica because, as he says, 'She's nice and is really pretty to look at'. Another little girl, JJ, adores him and they are so cute together. They hold hands, greet each other with hugs, and kiss on the cheek sometimes when it's time to go home. Apparently JJ loves to help Ian put his shoes on/tie them and she put her mat right next to Ian's and won't let him rest at nap time.

So we're in the car heading home from school yesterday when Ian asks from the back seat, "Mom, why don't I have a baby in my belly yet?" As I attempted to not wreck the Oddy (or laugh), I explained to him that boys don't carry babies, girls do. So he asks, "Why?" And I simply say that God made girls to carry and birth babies but boys are to be the Daddy to the baby and help take care of it. So he continues with, "When my wife has our baby, I'm going to get to hold the baby a lot." I just smiled with joy at his soft-hearted spirit and reassured him that not only will he get to hold the baby a lot but that I'm certain he's going to be a fantastic Daddy to his children, just as his Daddy is to him.

Later that same evening as we had finished bedtime books Ian's mind struck again. He told me, "Mama, maybe when I have my little boy he can wear my favorite space pajamas when he turns four like me." So Mark laughed and told me, "So I guess those pajamas are yet another thing you can never get rid of."

Ian's first parent/teacher conference and more

This past Friday Mark and I attended our first of many parent/teacher conferences for Ian. Going into the meeting I couldn't help but wonder if the Ian we know at home was the same Ian the teachers experience at school. So I was curious as to the feedback we were going to hear.

The teacher showed us his "self portrait" as he drew it. Here it is. She was impressed that he drew arms as most kids his age only draw legs on the body. I was pleased to see him portray himself as happy and smiling. We were then shown his page where he attempted to cut the paper along a straight line and he did really well, staying quite close to the line. On the opposite side of the page he was shown a sequence of X - O - X  and asked to fill in the next few blanks as to what letter would follow the sequence. He filled in X - O - X and the teacher commented that he was "close". I noted that he actually started the entire pattern over and she chuckled that maybe he's "advanced" in his thinking. Too cute. Then she let us know that he can successfully count to 14 and he can count backwards from 10 to 1.

Overall they gave him a good review and said he is quite social, has lots of friends (and girlfriends) and his vocabulary and communication skills are at the top of his class. The teacher joked that she loves talking to Ian because he can "have a real conversation" and that he actually prefers to talk to the teachers often because he appreciates "adult conversation". Again, we chuckle because we know he only stops talking if he's eating (and even then he still tries to talk or make noise of some kind) or if he's sleeping. Thanks to his Grandpas, he has the gift of gab!
Ian has discovered rhyming words and often speaks in rhymes or we play a game called "What Rhymes With...(fill in the blank)" and he and I try and say as many words as we can think of - most of which are made-up, of course.

His other interesting game is "What Is Bigger?" where he'll ask a question like, "What is bigger - God or a dinosaur?" or "What is bigger - a house or a bulldozer?"

Mark gets him a stack of books from the library every other week or so and we read three each night at bedtime. Ian's new favorite author is Bill Peet. We have read "Wump World" daily since Mark brought it home. The author is quite creative, great at story-telling, and the illustrations are pretty cute, too.

We've also, unfortunately, entered the potty talk portion of his preschool years. I realize with boys the potty talk is inevitable and thankfully it's really rather innocent at this age. The words he dares to say are "poop, pee, bottom, bummy...". Even though we've talked about the idea that there is a time and a place for such talk, I only wish his world would remain this innocent. He doesn't even use the word "butt" yet. If daring to say the word poop is as rebellious as it gets around here for a while, I'm thrilled.

Ian loves using big words and he always asks what words mean if he hears them in conversation or on television. So he's adopted several "big words" here lately and it sort of cracks us up to hear a 4-1/2 year old speak like an adult sometimes.

His new favorite words/phrases:

"speaking of..."
stupendous
appropriate (if I tell him that we can't watch a certain show or movie he will say, "because it's not appropriate for me and anna?")
hughnormous (a combination of huge and enormous - I swear he thinks this is a real word)

Ian's writing skills have really blossomed since the holidays. He can correctly write his own name and first initial of his last name, Anna's name, Mom, and Dad without help in spelling or how to write the letters. He will often ask how to spell something he wants to write or how to write a particular letter and once I explain it, he does it. He catches on so quickly. We're so proud of how his little mind is expanding day by day and how excited he is to learn!

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Friendships

This weekend I attended a 'moving away' dinner party for my friend Amy who will be relocating with her family to the Dallas area in a very short time. It was certainly a bitter sweet evening. The night out with the girls was a blast - full of funny stories, heartfelt conversation, and just a few "perfect" margaritas (but I'm not saying any names)! It was so much fun to get together with old friends and even meet some new friends, too. But at the end of the evening, it was sad to realize that a friend was saying good-bye.

Ironically, Ian came home from preschool this past week singing a song that I hadn't heard him sing before. And I think I've asked him to sing it half-a-dozen times since then because it's so simple and yet so sincere (and I love how soft and sweet his little voice gets as he sings it).

The lyrics go...

Make new friends, but keep the old
One is silver and the other gold.


A circle is round, it has no end
That’s how long I want to be your friend.

As simple as the message is, it's so very true whether you're in preschool or well into adulthood. The Lord brings specific people into our lives for a purpose. Even though it may seem to be for just a season, when we look back on that person's impact on our lives, we realize that friendship really is precious. Our connections and relationships with others mold who we are and who we aspire to be.

I pray that as my children grow they will encounter friends who impact them in such positive, powerful ways that they can't imagine their friendship circle ever ending. And I pray that they will be such a friend to others, too.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Walk A Mile

On Saturday, April 30th there will be an event in downtown OKC called Walk A Mile In My Shoes to build awareness about the over half a million kids currently in foster care throughout the United States and the 8,000+ children in foster care right here in Oklahoma. Learn more and register for this free 1 mile, family-friendly walk at WalkAMileOKC.com .

Here from actual foster care children in the video "What Foster Children Have To Say"

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Food for thought

I discovered this extremely powerful video via the Christian Alliance for Orphans. No introduction or explanation needed. Please watch in its entirety. It will surely speak for itself and gives each of us food for thought.

True Religion from Christian Alliance for Orphans on Vimeo.

Top 10

As I prepare to attend the 8046 Conference in a few weeks, I received this recently and thought I'd share...

Top 10 Things You Can Do For A Foster Child

10) Pray for the children in foster care and their families.
9) Collect birthday gifts for the foster children in your community.
8) Have a baby shower to collect baby essentials.
7) Donate luggage for foster children in transition.
6) Collect school supplies, toiletries, towels, and wash clothes.
5) Volunteer for a foster care organization.
4) Contact your local OKDHS foster care specialist about specific needs in your community.
3) Provide occasional respite for foster children.
2) Mentor a foster child.
1) Become a foster parent.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Spring Break

The kids eat dinner with Bryson
while watching
Spectacular Spiderman.
Spring Break started with a trip to the doctor for Ian. It had been nearly two months to the day since we last visited the pediatrician so I guess we were "due" for a trip in. Ian's barking cough returned over the previous weekend and progressed quickly. So we got him in on Monday.

Unfortunately, he was diagnosed with Croup again. This time wasn't as severe as last time but the doctor opted for an inhaler instead of a shot or meds as with the previous time. Ian wanted no parts of the inhaler and the first round of using it was not pleasant. The "mask" they provided to help him ingest all of the spray really scared him so he asked to just use the inhaler itself. He has to take two puffs, twice a day. After the first few rounds, he had it down and wasn't afraid of the process anymore.

Daddy promised him a surprise if he could take his inhaler all week without a fuss. So on Friday he brought Ian a new Imaginext airplane called Tornado Prop. He was ecstatic and hasn't put it down all weekend. And because Mark didn't want Anna to be left out, he picked out a new bath toy for her that squirts water up in the air and she loved it.


The boys enjoy their pudding.

 Ian had his cousin Bryson over to the house for some playtime, dinner and some Spiderman comics on tv one evening. The boys were so wound up to see each other and had a blast chasing each other with light sabers, making chocolate pudding to enjoy after dinner, and eating in the living room while watching comics. Anna was right there for all the 'big kid' action, of course. 

 We ventured out to the local historical museum for the first time and experienced their hands-on portion of the museum designed for kids. It was pretty neat. The kids got to play dress-up in a wild west style house, pretend they were farmers, bankers, grocery store clerks, the town sheriff (and inmates) and enjoy the train table. We ran into one of Ian's school friends and his cousins so Ian and Anna were thrilled to see familiar faces. All the kids enjoyed the museum and Mama loved the price...free!  


Ian and Dalton as "teachers" and Anna
is the student in the historic classroom

Later in the week we met up with our family from up the turnpike at our local zoo. It was great seeing them and the cousins just had a blast. Ian wanted his cousin Dayton (11 years old) to come home with us. He referred to her as  his new 'big sister'. And Anna and Jacelyn (6 years old) hit it off immediately and walked hand-in-hand most of the day. The zoo was more crowded than I have ever seen it and the record crowds actually made the front page of the newspaper the following day. I learned to avoid the zoo at all cost during spring break. But it was a fun time, overall.

    
All the cousins gather together at the zoo.

And the best part was the kids slept in to a reasonable hour each day. Anna blessed us with sleeping until at least 6am, and even 7am one morning. And Ian would make it until 6:30 almost each day. Mama greatly appreciated getting to sleep past 5am several days in a row. Woohoo! We hope this routine continues.

 
It was a fun week and it sure did go by quickly. But I know the kids will be so excited to return to school because they have missed their friends. And we're all thrilled mild weather has arrived and it appears that spring is just around the corner. Hooray for sunshine and light jackets!

Monday, March 7, 2011

Six years ago

It's pretty surreal to think that six years ago today Mark and I moved in to our current home. This anniversary marks milestones in both my life and Mark's. This is now the longest either of us has lived in one home, one town, one single place since both of us lived at home with our parents as teenagers. And six years in the same house is a milestone I have not had since I was a very young girl in Houston.

When I really thought about being in this house for six years it made me think back to all the places I have lived - all the apartments, homes, dorms, etc. I am amazed that I have not lived in one single place for more than about four years (at most) since I was young enough to not remember. Coincidentally, one house I grew up in back in Houston was on the market last fall and the other one is currently on the market. And the home Mark and I shared back in Houston before moving here was just on the market about two months ago. Quite a trip to step back into those homes via the Internet to see what has changed and what hasn't. Each one has its own set of memories and it's true of our current home as well.

We have a beautiful tulip tree in the front yard that was in full bloom the week we moved in. And each March I am reminded of just how beautiful it truly is. We have a huge window in our living room that overlooks the front yard. The week the tree blooms I have witnessed people literally stop their car to either look at the tree or even to take pictures of it. I often see people on walks stop and admire its huge blooms and, again, take photos via their phones.

Our home is 40+ years old now and we've discovered some of the homes' quirky history on more than one occasion. The original owner was a woman named Ethel and we assume she has now passed. But Ethel still likes to play little jokes on us sometimes - or so we think. Our living room had an electronic ceiling fan that would "magically" turn on while I was away and would freak me out each time I returned home to find it on. We quickly replaced it during our first year here. And whenever something just plain strange happens we always joke that Ethel is letting us know she's here. When Ian was born I remember us commenting on how we are sure Ethel is happy to know there is a baby in the house.















When we moved here, we knew this wasn't our forever home but it was (and still is) all we truly need. Despite the annoyances of an aging home, there are little things about this home that have made it quite special to us over the years. The most precious memories are, of course, bringing each of our babies home. We've also celebrated milestone anniversary parties, the kids' first birthday parties, the kids' first Christmas, huge Thanksgiving meals where family consumed our formal living and dining room at one giant table, and so much more.

So until the Lord leads us somewhere else, 'I'll be here a while' as the song of the same title by the group 311 says. And as I look out the front window into our yard, it is a bit comforting to know that our beautiful blooming tulip tree welcomes us once again into another year of being home.

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Shopping for sparkles

A young girl who was probably about eight years old touched my heart and left me with a big smile this week. She came in with her foster mom and I got to help her shop. She was so bubbly, sweet and 'all girl'. She was drawn to the bright colored tops that had sparkles on them. Each shirt I pulled out she would get more and more excited as she saw they all had embellishments. She tried on her clothes and would come out to 'model' them for her mom. She was too cute. She found two shirts she loved and then proceeded to try on about ten different pairs of shoes. We were getting such a big kick out of this young lady and she was having a ball on her 'spree'. As she left the resource center, she waved and told us all thank-you and goodbye. And I think I smiled the rest of the day because this little angel of a girl could put on such a brave and happy face despite her situation. God has His hand on her, for sure. She is full of light!

8046

"8046" represents a snapshot in time of the number of Oklahoma children in foster care and the year-long campaign focused on recruiting Bridge foster and adoptive families from the communities of faith. The campaign will be launched by a statewide training event for faith-based ministries interested in foster care and adoption ministries.

The FREE event will be held on April 5 in Oklahoma City and include presentations on:



A Child’s Journey Through the System
How a Church Could Have Helped
A Call to Action: How Churches Can Minister to Foster and Adoptive Kids
Who Are These Kids? Understanding Children from Hard Places
Everybody Has a Role

8:30AM Sign In

9AM to 3PM (lunch included)

Crossings Community Center

2208 W. Hefner Road, OKC 73120

Register Here


The "8046" April 5th event is sponsored by Oklahoma foster care and adoption Christian* ministries, Arrow Child & Family Ministry, Oklahoma Department of Human Services, and the Office of Faith-Based and Community Initiatives.